multitudes of sophies

“ For myself, I’ve never particularly had much luck dating within the “nerd” community. Usually, it’s because I feel the “nerd guys” I run into don’t like me for me, but because I’m a “nerd”. They put the emphasis on what I like over who I am. I’ve literally met intelligent adult men who pissed themselves upon meeting me because I like comic books, like comedy and have red hair. That didn’t flatter me like I’m sure it was intended. It made me feel like I was their mail order nerd girl bride. They never asked me why I liked Dune or Saturday Night Live. They just assumed because they liked those things and I liked those things, I was put on Earth to make them feel less alone. It’s sweet, but disconcerting. I’m no man’s pixie manic dream girl. I’m a woman with her own shit to sort through.